It was the summer of 1994, and I had just turned thirteen. My mother was a nurse practitioner who worked in the emergency room at one of the busiest hospitals in San Francisco. She always told me that if I ever felt depressed or overwhelmed about anything to call her. That day, she came home from work with an unusual look on her face. It wasn’t until she started talking that I knew something bad had happened. “I saw this teenage girl today,” she said, “She was healthy and happy.”
“What happened?” I asked. “She was healthy and happy.” She repeated, choking back a sob. It took me two years to find out what had happened that day in the emergency room at work: she’d been raped by an acquaintance while he said nothing.
The next morning, my mother came into my bedroom with her eyes puffy from crying all night long. “I want you to start taking precautions,” she told me as we sat on the edge of my bed together. Together we listed every possible situation that might happen and then talked about how I could prevent it or handle it if the worst were to actually come true.
First, it is important for teenagers to take care of their mental health and not just focus on physical ailments because they are more vulnerable than adults because they have less experience in life (Kerner). Second, one way that teens can maintain emotional balance is by keeping an open dialogue with friends about what’s bothering them so they don’t force themselves into bottling up feelings or self-medicating to cope (Kerner). Lastly, adolescents should be encouraged to develop coping skills such as mindfulness meditation since studies show these practices help reduce depression symptoms and anxiety (Murphy).
A healthy teenager is someone who takes precautions. One crucial way of maintaining emotional balance for a teen is by not bottling up thoughts or emotions, but rather to maintain an open dialogue with friends and family about what’s bothering them: this will help them avoid self-medicating or forcing themselves into feeling like they are the only ones dealing with these issues (Kerner). Keeping in touch with people also helps adolescents develop coping skills such as meditation–research shows that mindfulness practice can reduce depression symptoms and anxiety (Murphy). Essentially, keeping communication channels open can have long term benefits on mental health.
Therefore, it’s important for teenagers to take care of their mental state first before focusing just on physical ailments because teens need to be able to function in the world that they are living and what better way than for them to maintain a healthy mental state.
The healthy teenager who took precautions
Was able to have a happy life and enjoy the moment even if they were feeling an emotion.
Didn’t feel like they had to be perfect all of the time, but still strives for self improvement.
Took precautions by acting as their own big sister or little brother’s voice when it came to difficult decisions about sex, alcohol, drugs etc.
Let them know that what worked for them might not work for everyone else so there is no need in trying to force someone into going against their will through peer pressure because this person won’t always want you around in years after high school.
A healthy teenage doesn’t take advantage of opportunities given to him/her and doesn’t take the easy way out. They will do everything they can to be a better person for themselves, their peers, family and friends.
So that there is more opportunities in this life than just high school because now it seems like everyone has forgotten about all of those things after graduation day.
A healthy teenager who took precautions avoided negative emotions by being wise enough to know when someone was trying to manipulate them into doing something or getting too attached with something so they really had no option but to walk away without a backwards glance while still having respect for what the other person did for him/herself as well as respecting his own decision not go down that route at all costs.
He will do everything he can to be a better person for himself, his peers, family and friends.
So there is more opportunities in this life than just high school because now it seems like everyone has forgotten about all of those things after graduation day.
The healthy teen who took precautions never allowed irrelevant people’s opinions affect his decisions- especially if they’re talking trash behind their back.
In fact, he never really cared what they said in the first place because it only matters to him if his friends and family are proud of who he’s become- not some person that he doesn’t even know from a hole in the wall.
So when those people talk behind their backs about how much time this healthy teenager is spending on himself or doing things for other people instead of them, then they’ll see him do better than them soon enough especially now that there are so many opportunities out there for everyone to explore!
He made sure all these emotions were tucked away into lockers with locks where no one can find them but himself before walking through those school doors each morning just waiting to be released at home again and sometimes during the drive between the two.
But, he was able to avoid all of that completely by simply not making himself so available like those other people do when they’re always underfoot or just around with their accusing eyes and judgmental words waiting for him to slip up again!
Plus there’s no one who knows this healthy teenager better than he does after years of introspection and self-reflection into his own life. So, if anyone should be in control over these emotions it is him as much as any other person would want themselves to be!